Sexuality has no boundaries. At Secret Corner, we believe that everyone deserves to give and receive sexual pleasure.
With all the love in the air at the moment, Pride and gender fluidity has stormed past, yet we have perhaps, as a culture, not taken a serious enough look into sexuality and Disabilities. Let us assure you. It exists, it is a reality and there are no boundaries regarding sexual function and sexual joy.
Sexuality and disability is not secondary and unimportant. We need to take into account the vital importance of intimacy and the human touch and connection, of taste, and having that bond.
We Bust The Myths
Society has pinned many myths around disability and sexuality. We find it frustrating and frankly offensive and incorrect.
Living with a disability is challenging in it’s own right. However, the right to a fulfilling sex life as well as access to sex toys, products and information to aid and assist disabled persons achieve it, are all available; and a human right.
Disabled people can be gay, they can be kinky and have all shades of sexuality about them, in essence, like anyone else. And why not?
Living with a disability can have an impact on any activity, not just sex. It can be emotionally challenging as well as physically.
Sex toys are here to aid, assist, and ensure to give and receive pleasure, achieve greater intimacy with your partner or simply flying solo.
If you are not too sure what to look for and wonder what could or would assist, we have put together 8 accessible sex toys that will bring both pleasure and a sense of fulfilment.
Here Are 8 Sexciting Ideas
The Magic Wand
Any wand vibrator has a host of accessible features. Like the long handle for example. We personally recommend the DOXY WAND, with 3 buttons you cannot miss, a long and steady handle and the rumbling large rounded massage head.
Wands are perfect to reach those hidden spots, super easy to handle making it effective even for anyone finding it hard holding a regular vibrator.
Doxy is nice and sturdy so can be used hands-free or placed in your lap or placed between the thighs.
Hot Octopus Pulse 3 is a masturbation sleeve that can be fun for both partners. Pulse 3 has specifically designed to meet the needs of disabled persons.
The wide wings wrap around the penis, the oscillating and vibrating plate delivers intense stimulation.
The Pulse 3 is specifically designed with the penis in mind; even a flaccid penis. Unlike any masturbation sleeves, no stroking is necessary, making it an excellent choice for limited or no mobility.
With all that, the Pulse 3 is ergonomically designed to allow for vaginal stimulation by sitting astride the penis delivering vibrating bliss to the vagina. Now that wants to be done in terms of mutual pleasure.
Steamy Shades Sex Wedges
Sex Wedges are ideal for lifting and positioning and supporting. Most disabled people use pillows to get comfortable for a sexy session. The position of the Sex Wedge is not only an enhancer, but it also supports sex positions staying firm and in place.
Steamy Shades Wedges are excellent choices for people who experience a level of pain, or fatigue or limited mobility and want to stay in position. 
The Steamy Shades Deluxe Inflatable Wedge and Restraint Cuffs is as an essential accessory for anyone wanting to add a bit of erotica into their bedroom. The 6 connections points, cuffs will not only aid in lifting the bum comfortably, for easier penetration, but also add a slight bondage element to your sexy repertoire. Ideal for beginners and perfect to get comfy and enjoy some playful and sexy fun.
Bondage Tape
Who would have thought that bondage tape would be used as a sexual aid for disabilities? We worked that out.
Bondage tape is a colourful duct tape, this tape, like magic only sticks to itself. Besides being a fun way to add a bit of bondage to your playground, it is simple and leaves no sticky residue.
Using this tape is excellent to adapt sex toys. Use it to trap your toy to your pillow, your body, bed or wheelchair. Keeping it all in place for handsfree pleasure. When you remove the tape there will be no trace of stickiness. The fun with bondage tape is that it comes in an array of colours and is wide and bold and will is a fun way to adapt and test sex toys in different ways.
The Strap – On
Having penetrative sex with a partner is really underestimated, but a vital part of a intimacy.
Some disabilities such as a spinal injury, erectile dysfunction, genital difference or mobility impairments make penetration difficult or impossible.
The one solution to this is using a strap on harness with a compatible dildo,
There are a lot of different harnesses out there and even more dildos. Some dildos are jazzed up with sparkles and confetti or bend and flex and stay in place, others vibrate and gyrate or even thrust.
Harnesses are variable and come in various styles and generally can be used for any size.
There is that shared element of intimacy too.
Some harnesses are designed specifically to wear over a flaccid penis or you could try the Malesation Boyfriend Hollow Dildo, complete with harness, which the penis slips into and makes penetration, not only possible, but pleasurable too. Most are able to be gripped onto making it easier for those who find it difficult to hold a vibrator or dildo unassisted.
Fifty Shades Of Grey Totally His Soft Hand Cuffs
Adding to the bondage play, is a fun way to explore submission and intimacy with a partner. But the idea of fiddly buckles is an issue. Cuffs are excellent in several ways. But choose something that wont need to be fiddled with.
Totally His Soft Hand Cuffs are soft and flexible, and are tightened with Velcro making it easy to put on or take off.
We-Vibe Pivot Vibrating Cock Ring
Put a ring on it and have some fun. The Pivot is designed to slip over the penis giving excellent stimulation for both partners. Besides being and excellent cock ring, it is also good for anyone who struggles to grip or hold small objects.
The loop of the cock ring can be used as a grip, or slipped over the fingers and used as a vibrating pad anywhere on the body.
We love the We Vibe Pivot as it is convenient, waterproof, has a magnetic recharging cable and can be controlled via phone app (We Connect) so no batteries or button, which are fiddly anyway.
Lux Fetish Door Slam Swing
The door slam swing is ideal for suspension and play and actually make sex play much easier.
The swing is fully flexible and diverse. Easy to adjust and fits easily over the door for support. Made of durable nylon and has extra padding for comfortable experience.
Spreader Bar
A spreader bar. Well I had to think about this for awhile.
The spreader bar is easy to use and comfortable. XXDreamtoys have the perfect Spreader Bar, made of stainless steel that are able to be adjusted with leather cuffs to keep the ankles apart.
Using a Spreader Bar will assist in keeping the legs apart, and ensuring comfort.
End Notes
Make sure that you check the materials your toys are made out of, specifically for those with a vulva. Ensure your new sex toy is not going to irritate the delicate bits.
Avoid buying anything such as PVC, latex, jelly or rubber. It is almost impossible to disinfect or keep clean. Use only items that are indorsed with “Body Safe Materials”
Make sure your sex toy is easy to hold, or at least easy to adapt. Or opt for hands free items.
Know your hot spots. Try different aspects of stimulation. Purring suction toys are all and a bit in terms of pleasure. Ideal for couples play as well as flying solo.
Invest. Your sex toys are an investment! The benefits of an orgasm far outweigh the expense.
There is so much to choose from. If all else fails… we have all you need, besides the items, we have the expert Sexperts here who will guide you and ensure that your pleasure comes first. (yes, pun intended) We have invested in your sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Keep It Clean
Material Matters
When choosing your pleasure items. Avoid choosing anything that is rubber, PVC, plastic or jelly. They are almost impossible to clean and will certainly give you an infection or no less, an STD.
Use a sex toy cleaner to ensure optimal sexual health, and yes, use a condom on your dildo or vibrator, specifically if you are sharing items. In or out of a monogamous union.
Wetter is Better
Lube it up. Know your lubes. Water-based for your silicone items, choose some decadent edible lubes to make oral play delicious, choose a flavoured lube or clitoral or penis enhancing serum or gel. This will heighten sensation on either the penis or the clitoris or vulva. Orgasms guaranteed!
Condom Up
Yes! Use a condom on your dildo or vibrator. Single or not. STD’s can be spread via sex toys. Not only that, but infections can spread.
There are so many bridges to cross on this subject.
My job is to ensure that your sexual health is intact at all times. That you are aware of the ups and the downs. Yes, another pun and it was intended.
Stay tuned for more on your sexual health. This is your time to fly!
