Ever since Eve picked that apple in the Garden of Eden, women’s bodies and sexual freedom have been a focus of contempt, subjugation, emotional and physical restriction.
Discriminations, often based on religious arguments, are sadly used to control women’s bodies, the way they dress and the ownership of their reproduction. This is a violation of a Woman’s Human Rights.
“According to the most recent Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, (DSM-5, 2013), the American Psychiatric Association’s classification and diagnostic tool, lack of desire[i] (classified as HSDD or hypoactive sexual desire disorder, or female sexual interest/arousal disorder) and the related anxiety it causes, is the most common of women’s sexual complaints”.
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN OF LADIES – There is an epidemic of LACK (of sexual desire) out there and we need to talk about it.
If we do not include sex in our conversations and discuss human function, we are missing out on the one crucial pillar. We need to BioHack our sexual techniques. We need to talk about desire, lack of desire or the lack of attention we pay, regarding, desire.
This is not an epidemic that “older women” are effected by, on the verge of some life or hormonal changing dynamic. Young women are experiencing these changes too.
Contrary to popular belief, female Viagra is not the answer, neither are the quick fixes. An ORGASM is the best healing tool a woman can have.
You CAN hack your lifestyle, change the way you look at your body, weight loss is always an endorphin booster and boosts brain productivity.
It is time to reclaim your juicy mojo. Regardless of your age.
Stress and depression seem to be the general consensus. Bad relationships also contribute to low libido but also diet, antidepressants and outdated myths about a women’s sexuality and what turns them on.
Clean Out Your Medicine Cabinet
Birth control and antidepressants can lower sexual desire. Hormone replacement therapy is also standing in the eves with a grim face, waiting patiently for you to head over.
The combination of oestrogen and progesterone are synthetic hormones are the root of all evil and diminish our pituitary hormones as a result. Not just ovarian function, but also testosterone production. Without testosterone, believe it or not, this is an arousal hormone in women.
Menopausal women have, in the past and may still do, take low levels of testosterone to level out their libido.
Women’s sexual desire, is sensitive to sexual touch, and our ability to reach orgasm are all driven in part by our testosterone levels. When we experience a drop, it’s hard to get hot.
As women, we are on a continual hormone dance.
As for Antidepressants, they also mess with hormones, so they are also lurking in the corners causing more reason to panic.
Look At Alternatives
Dong Quai – Also known as Female Ginseng, beneficial to female sexual heath. It is a relatively potent herb and is known to have to ability to regulate oestrogen levels, improving uterine tone and regulating menstrual cycles. Also known as Woman’s Moon Cycle, and has been around for centuries – healing and assisting women.
Agnus Castus
Another well known herb knows as Chaste Tree is also known for aiding menstrual symptoms, like irritability based on traditional use only. But also used as an alternative to chemical based medication that change sexual function and desire.
Wild Yam
In other words. There are alternatives for the chemical based and mood altering substances that are too often and easily prescribed for women.
The Sweeter Side of Sex. Or Not?
SUGAR KILLS TESTOSTERONE!
Clean out your refrigerator, clear out your cupboards of sugars ad carbs. Including white flour. They all contribute to lowering in both men and women, arousal.
Think erectile disfunction, which also effects the clitoris and not just a penis. Sugar saps your energy, leads to fatigue which increases your chances of a sleep and not a good snog.
To restart desire, one needs to work on the biological level. Learn to rekindle the capacity of your mechanical and physical body. We, as women need to empower ourselves with knowledge about our bodies and its abilities and fully own their libidos.
Masturbation. Masturbation. And. Masturbation.
We all know that feeling after an orgasm. Anything that brings intense physical pleasure also balances the hormones, this is easily and mostly achieved through masturbation.
Masturbation is a MUST for increasing female desire. According a 2009 study, an orgasm helps the body release oxytocin, also known as the “love +bonding” hormone, this also lowers cortisol; being an adrenalin hormone that can at times be rather volatile or even unpleasant. It is the main hormone that elevates stress, and stress related eating.
Higher levels of oxytocin make us happy keeping emotionally triggered eating at bay. Sugars, and all those “happy foods” at bay. Oxytocin is easily released by simply stimulating the clitoris, vagina and cervix. Even if you don’t reach an orgasm, those powerful neurotransmitters will be released.
Invest In A Sex Toy
Well obviously, that is my number one choice. There is so much out there to discover and to energise yourself. Get to know what you like. Do you prefer deep g-spot penetration? Clit stimulation? A combination of the two? It is all available.
Besides a sex toy, there are serums to boost blood to the surface of the vagina, making it more sensitive to touch, as well as libido enhancing tabs or gels, which will also increase libido, without the chemicals.
Discover different levels of arousal, choose to do it with your partner, or not.
For a woman who experiences low libido, masturbation will help increase self-confidence in the bedroom and in the boardroom. There is clear evidence for the connection between masturbation and an elevation in a woman’s self esteem.
Lose The Stereotypes
Gender stereotypes have had a massive impact of badly shaping scientific research and leading researchers to mislabel female desire. For centuries women are seen as the timid and focused on procreation and not satisfaction, and apparently, we are designed for monogamy.
Let me say this. Female desire is not rational or is it a limited force it has been made out to be. The female body and libido respond to a far wider variety of visual and fantasy stimuli than males. Women want and chase and want sex in greater quantities than what has always been thought.
Down those tools and discover how you can hack your female sexual desire. Create your own agenda on pleasure. We are not complicated. We don’t need to be silenced, or treated as “complicated”, and prescribed a plethora of drugs to calm us down. Remove the cultural and lead the revolution in removing the stumbling blocks between us and our sexual desire.
Discover platforms that advocate for pleasure. Advocate for women’s pleasure your selves. Join groups, create workshops and ask for advice when you need.
In saying so. Secret Corner do not offer medical advice. All medical issues should be taken up with your Medical Practitioner. We are here to assist you in your sexual journey. Your sexual healing, and your sexual discovery. We offer candid advice on sexual aspects and offer alternatives to increase sexual function as a woman, man or as couples. Secret Corner stock a wide range of pleasure items. Vibrators in all different shapes and sizes, serums, lubes and juicy flavoured oral glides. And our advice? Well that is free and we pride ourselves in offering it.
References:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2971736/
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19138375
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21185838
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2971736/
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/02/the_truth_about_female_desire_its_base_animalistic_and_ravenou
