I’m a “pleasure specialist” it’s more than you think. Or not as bad as you assume. I sell sex toys. I am equal parts salesperson and therapist. Penis puns notwithstanding, how hard can it be?
There is a certain look on the faces of people who ask what I do for a living. With a lot of misconception around adult stores, we certainly are spoilt for choices. That is a hard one to explain around a dinner table!
Gone are the days of, “sleazy porn shops”, they’re out the door; and have been replaced by elegant and stylised adult boutiques. With a plethora of sex toys, lingerie and adult pleasure paraphernalia which has become the embodiment of the sex positive movement.
An adult shop is a haven where you are free to embrace and explore your sexuality and feel comfortable without stigma. Tucked away, amid cosmopolitan coffee and music shops, the best situated adult shops are discreetly and ideally placed in areas that command traffic, yet you do not expect an adult shop to be in an upmarket suburban area.
Fashionable, and elegant. Flowers flank the windows and music floats through the open door. “I did not know you existed, and I live just up the road” – is often said, as a customer slips in discreetly, looking over their shoulder, with a, “who saw me” look on their face. Yet in awe at the sheer elegance and lightness they find themselves in. Relief is palpable.
The general idea of going into an adult shop and talking one on one about your sex life is a daunting affair. However, there are advantages of going into a store as opposed to shopping online. You get to feel, touch and see the products, and if you are lucky, you will receive informed opinions and expert advice. If you don’t, then leave immediately.
I handle on average 10 dildos in a day and discuss orgasms and nipple clamps regularly, not to mention how “real the feel” of popular men’s masturbators. I do so with candid abandon and pay fine attention to detail. I too am discovering vital aspects of sexuality. This is my job and what I love to do.
Working in this environment requires passion. It’s not about the pay cheque at the end of the day. Sex toys have an actual science and complicated technology behind them. Materials, power, not to mention the history, brand names and functionality as well as popularity. All play a vital part in your personal pleasure. I make it my business to keep my finger on the pulse of what is hot and not so hot. I listen to my clients, hear their doctor’s requests, and educate myself daily
Not all sex toys are made equally, there are no stupid questions. Trust me, I have heard it all. There is one commonality though. Sex toys are used for pleasure. How or when is up to you. A good adult shop will be able to give you informed ideas, feedback from satisfied clients and will have done the review homework which is readily passed on.
Adult Shops are locally owned, and yes, are aware that prices vary, and some items are cheaper online, and others not. Online shopping is sometimes preferred, the anonymity and ambiguity is appealing. Delivery is discreet, and items are wrapped with love. Your privacy is our concern and always respected. You’d be surprised at the times some online orders are made. And no, we don’t look you up on social media. Being anonymous is transient, invariably, a client relationship is struck up and we will be on a first name basis in no time. And will make it your business to pop in store and enjoy the experience.
Is More Expensive Better? I like to compare sex toys like food. Higher quality always tastes better and lasts longer. So, go for quality, you’ll be happier in the long term. There are some excellent toys that won’t break the bank, seek professional advice. Touch. Feel and listen – your consultant will know it all.
If you don’t ask a lot of questions, you’re not serious about your sex toy adventure. No question is stupid. Trust me, I’ve heard it all. Be appropriate and respectful, and that will be reciprocated tenfold. Nothing in more annoying that someone prodding telephonically questioning variants that make no sense and frankly, waste enormous amounts of time and honestly and annoy the hell out of me. We are trained to answer questions as appropriately as the question is asked. Make sense?
Sex culture is changing rapidly. Women are becoming more empowered and discussing their pleasure openly. Sex toys are not primarily a “chick-thing” – There are a lot of interesting sex toys with men in mind; and why not? Men’s pleasure is as important as woman’s pleasure. Sexual Freedom is advocated, and everyone has a right to pleasure, regardless of orientation.
Couples are exploring together, and technology is so evolved that couples are intimate together; on different continents; no less. Remote controls are no longer just for TV’s and a dinner date is not complete without your partner having one on hand. Obviously, public orgasms are no longer for movie sets alone.
Sex is fun. Don’t let social norms prevent you from enjoying and exploring new things.
Another thing. There is no such thing that sex toys are for those who are not having sex. Mind you, sex toys enhance and help to liberate the passions and intimacy in a relationship, it’s not exclusive. It’s always been there, but life happens. If you get my drift?
I change people’s lives. With the years of misinformation out there on adult shops, I make it my business to remove the stigma surrounding sexual pleasure. It is vital to embrace a healthy sexual disposition and being in a relationship in not a prerequisite.
So, before you slip off this mortal coil, and when next you choose to visit an adult shop, look out for light and spacey open places, listen for the music and expect to be offered a glass of wine or two. It’s all about the experience. Are you ready to join the fun?