What is Bondage?

We take the myth out of bondage and kinky sex – Bondage has many diaphanous veils, from taught roping, to light and more passive forms of bondage. Whichever way you choose to pronounce it, bondage, be it light or not, is pure erotique and deserves a place in the world of bedroom fantasy.

Shibari has evolved and reveals the vulnerability and euphoria of the dance between two as the art of erotic spirituality. Shibari style rigging and roping crates geometric patterns with rope that contrast beautifully with the curves and shapes of the body emphasising sensuality, vulnerability as well as strength. The placing of knots at specific pleasure points heightens the pleasure and stimulates the energy flow, commonly known as Chi.

This art, coupled with height, risk and blindfolds offers both the “rigger” and the “model” heightened states of euphoria – known as “Sub-Space and “Top Space” – this increases the endorphins and hormones creating a trance like experience for the model, and an adrenaline rush for the rigger.

“Kink” has emerged into the public eye, the art of bondage is an art form, allowing couples to explore new realms of erotic pleasure. Although handcuffs are still around and readily available, the emergence of personal and elaborate styles of rope euphoria are being exposed and openly exhibited. Couples are exploring deeper and being more open about their sexual fantasies and desires.

There are more passive forms of bondage. This is softer and more appeasing to some. Restraints and blindfolds are softer, and sexual exploration more tactile as opposed to the idea of suspension. The simple idea of being restrained is intriguing and those who have not yet stepped into that arena, it’s time to add to your kink drawer and explore. There are product ranges that offer beautiful lace and satin restraints. Some softer wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs with easy to release Velcro. Euphoria is euphoria whichever way you see it. Explore and discover brands that are available.

Adding a blindfold denies you visual input, which magically turns off your analytic brain and suspends you in the world of pure sensation. A blindfold can be made from anything that you have in your cupboard, but there are brands and products that personalize this using exotic fabrics and lace.

Then there is adding a little pain into the pleasure zone. With spikes, nipple and clitoris clamps. This may sound daunting to some. But this is not an uncommon zone to explore and products are now readily available.

We delve a little deeper. Massage has never felt better than with a little candle heat added into the mix. The irony is that candle wax is a little too hot to use directly on the body.  Massage candles are an exotic blend of oils and fragrances blended into a candle. The oil this produces is used directly on the body as a massage oil.  The synergy between pain and pleasure is a fascinating aspect to sexual play. Candle wax dripped over the naked body is very underrated. But like all play, play nicely.